It is so easy to forget that all of the moments along the way are your real life. Because you have plans. Big Things You Want To Do. Or Big Things Other People Want You To Do…
But the little moments are the ones that fill (& replenish) you with their completeness...
There’s even brain science to support that. That a moment when you are quietly present, doing nothing other than the thing you’re doing right then, settles your brain. It calms you & gives you a pattern that makes it easier to repeat in the future. So, having a little moment (even if just to yourself) & recognizing it as the perfectly fine thing it is, sets you up for more & more of those moments. Until you are stringing them together endlessly, amazed at how you ever got so lucky to have a life like that…
So, yes, the way you make up songs in the car about stoplights & whatever else is passing by. Or how you pull weeds while you’re on the phone with your sister until the garden starts to look like an actual garden. Or the moments of sitting side by side with someone you love & sighing at the mushy parts of romantic comedies. More of those, please…
The unexpected thing I’ve found is that my Big Plans are still in motion, too. Though I find I’m not all that tense about them any more. Or at least not tense about Whether They’ll Work Out In A Way I Can Tell Everyone Who Doubted Me That I Was Right All Along. (Which makes me laugh at how oddly true that is about Most Big Plans).
It’s so much more fun to be enjoying all the other moments of my life along the way…
with love, kai
p.s. ‘three things’ is available as an artprint here…